Q: Have you always thought of yourself as beautiful? Why or why not?
A: Absolutely not! I was born with a rare skin condition called “ichthyosis”, which makes my skin dry and flaky, as well as extremely temperamental. Some days I would look completely normal, and other days I would look like I hadn’t bathed in weeks. Sometimes my skin would be so red that people would ask if I had been scalded or if I suffered from skin cancer. This was especially difficult for me as a child, because I could see how other kids stared at my skin and avoided touching me even though they didn’t realize they were doing it. Not to mention all the kids who openly made fun of my skin, calling me “turkey hands”, “bathtub girl”, or “brown elbows”. On top of this skin condition, I had all the other awkward characteristics of a growing girl, namely coke-bottle glasses, big hips, crooked teeth, stretch marks, and clumsy feet.
Q: What physical features do you have that make you feel beautiful?
A: Ironically enough, my complexion! Despite all my struggles with beautiful skin, my face has never been affected by ichthyosis. In fact, I can count on two hands how many pimples I have had in my entire life.
I have also been blessed with lovely, naturally platinum blonde hair. I have never felt the need to change my look or color my hair, and my husband loves that the hair I do have (arms, eyebrows, legs etc) is so fair that you can hardly even see it.
Even though I LOVE food, and hardly ever watch what I eat, I simply don’t struggle with my weight. I have always been naturally slender, and nothing I do seems to change that (except pregnancy!).
My smile has also been a source of beauty in my life. I know that my teeth and smile aren’t perfect, in fact I sometimes have an awkwardly crooked smile, I know that my smile brings joy into my friends’ and family’s lives.
As a baby, my father blessed me that I would be graceful during my entire life. Though I have had my fair share of clumsiness, that blessing has turned out to be true. I don’t try to be graceful per se, but it is definitely a part of me that makes me more beautiful.
Q: Are there any physical features you have that sometimes keep you from feeling beautiful?
A: Definitely anywhere I have skin problems… especially my hands, feet, knees and elbows. Because of this, summertime is a difficult season for me. I would love nothing more than to feel confident in a swimsuit, shorts, capris, flip-flops, or knee-length skirts. When I was in middle school, I really wanted to be a cheerleader. I knew I would be good at it, too! But when auditions came, I couldn’t bring myself to wear shorts in front of the coach. I regretted that decision for many years. I wish I had had the confidence to be myself and be proud of it!
I even felt self-conscious during our engagement pictures when my hands were on constant display. My ring was beautiful, but my hands were not. Luckily the pictures turned out beautiful regardless of my funny skin.
Q: What circumstances in your life have helped you feel beautiful?A: I was blessed with a wonderful father, who took every opportunity to help me feel beautiful. My mom also suffers from ichthyosis, and whenever I started to doubt whether I would ever find someone who loved me for me, he assured me that he thinks my mom is the most beautiful person in the world, and that someday I would find someone who feels the same way about me. And he was right!
My parents have also helped me realize that my skin wasn’t keeping me from doing anything I wanted to accomplish – the only thing holding me back was me! I’m not the only child in our family with ichthyosis… in fact 5 out of 6 of us have varying versions of it. Since it affects some areas of our body more than others, we have started calling ourselves “mermaids” – or people who are half scaly, half normal. Having their constant support helped me realize that my skin wasn’t as bad as it could be, and that most of me was actually pretty beautiful! After all, have you ever heard of an ugly mermaid??

I will never forget an experience I had with my now husband that helped me realize my true beauty. Soon after I started dating my husband, we went outside to play frisbee on the first warm day of the year. We went barefoot so we could feel the grass between our toes. Unfortunately, since I have to wear so much lotion, my feet soon got so dirty I looked like a hobbit. I was extremely embarrassed, especially because his feet were still smooth and white as snow. How unladylike! When we went inside, I tried to discreetly run off to the bathroom to wash my feet in privacy, but not noticing my embarrassment he followed me right up to the bathtub. A few minutes later, he was still smiling and making conversation while he scrubbed my feet clean! I couldn’t help but think of the Savior and the beautiful moment it was when he washed his disciples’ feet. What a sign of love and humility! I didn’t ask him to wash my feet, nor did I have to explain my embarrassment or why my skin looked the way it did. He just picked up my feet like they were another beautiful part of my body and started washing them. I knew at that moment that I had finally found someone who loved me for all the right reasons. I felt so beautiful at that moment.

Q: Are there any circumstances in your life that have kept you from feeling beautiful?
A: Most recently, my biggest struggle with beauty has been the past nine months of my life – pregnancy! It was so difficult for me to sacrifice my body (in every way) for the health of my child. The emotions that accompany pregnancy are difficult to describe. At times I have felt so fat and unattractive to my husband, even though he thought I was more beautiful than ever! There are many other reasons to feel unattractive during pregnancy – many of which are too private to blog about. It just seems so unfair that women must undergo so many humbling experiences and embarrassing indecencies to have a baby, while men don’t experience any of it! But there are so many other reasons to feel beautiful because you are a mother (great hair and a bigger chest are just a few reasons!) It is true that women are never more beautiful than when they are pregnant because of their “pregnancy glow”. I think the “glow” is more accurately described as the light of Christ shining through, so we can actually say women are never more beautiful than when they are experiencing some of their greatest trials, because that is when the light of Christ shines the most. And what can be more beautiful than that?
Q: How would you define beauty?
A: I think beauty is a collection of attributes, qualities, and characteristics that inspire love, respect and affection. Something or someone is beautiful when you find yourself loving it for one reason or another.